The Unadmired Struggle

Yesterday, I was talking with my friend, and he spoke out “Yaar ghar walon ny zleel kr ke rkha huwa hai. Myry depression ki vjaa han who.“

This sentence surprised me a lot. Those relations are a source of peace then how can they make him depressed? Well, I continuously thought about it, and then I decided to discuss it with one of my friends who lost one of the blessings (his father) in his life. I told him the whole situation. He listened carefully and then narrated his strange life story. In his words,

“Dear, I used to think the same. My dad always asked me to only study. This annoyed me too extensively. But when I lost my father, all perceptions changed. Now, I wish that he come back at least for a short moment, no matter if he abuses me or beats me, but just come back and speak my name. I want to hear my name from him.” He started sobbing.

I feel his pain but we are so helpless in the matter of death. I wish!!! I could bring his father back but I can’t do this!!

Back to the topic, let’s notice!! Our parents don’t even know about their duration of life. The reason why they are taking our future so seriously is merely that they want to see us happy and flourishing.

My friend, whose father is no more told me that he was also very friendly with his father and often questioned about life. One day, he raised a question: “Why do you urge me to study all the time?” His father spoke out with tears in his eyes: “I am so ill, I know I will not live for a long time. If you get admission in MBBS, I will die with no worries about your future. I am concerned about what you will do after me. How will you face the world?”

We belong to a middle-class family. Our parents have seen too many difficulties in their lives and they don’t want us to see the same situations again. That’s why they are concerned about our future.

Hum middle-class bacho k waldain ke pass aik zindagi hoti hai or woh hm pr lgaa dety hain, Khudara unki qadr kryn.

I also come across another situation. My neighbor boy who had just graduated said to his father: “What did you do for me your whole life?“, and my whole body shivered after hearing this.  Because I had seen his father doing “mehnat mazdoori” despite his disrespect only for his education and when he reached this level, he was saying this to his father. For God’s sake, before saying this, just have a look at your father’s life and his struggles for you. Things that make you stressed are not your parent’s drawbacks but rather your perception. They are putting their whole efforts to give you a beautiful life. Things sometimes can be depressing and difficult, but instead of blaming your parents, look at their side of the picture. They did the best they could. Now it’s time for you to take up responsibility. Learn from the hardships they faced and show respect and gratitude towards them. This gratitude will make you strong in your difficult times and you will be able to move on through them 🙂.